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When we think about health, we usually focus on what we can feel day to day — like a stubborn cold we’re trying to shake off or that nagging ache in our back begging for some attention. It’s natural: when something’s uncomfortable or not working right, it grabs our focus.
Sexual health, though? That often slips under the radar unless there’s a glaring problem, like an STI. If everything seems “fine,” it’s easy to just not think about it.
But sexual health is a crucial part of our overall wellbeing — not some separate, optional add-on. It matters whether or not we have active partners, because it’s tied to essential parts of who we are, both physically and emotionally. Like any other area of health, it deserves regular care and attention.
So, let’s dive into a few key ways we can better support our sexual health, and in doing so, support ourselves too.
Hygiene & Care
When it comes to sexual health, good hygiene does most of the heavy lifting. Usually, a gentle wash with mild soap and warm water is all you need — no fancy products or harsh scrubbing required. In fact, going overboard can actually throw off your body’s natural balance and create problems instead of solving them.
For women with vulvas, one simple but important habit is wiping front to back after using the bathroom. It sounds basic, but it’s a major defense against bacteria that can cause infections. Also, a reminder: vaginas are self-cleaning wonders. Internal douching isn’t just unnecessary — it can actually do more harm than good.
For men with foreskin, it’s important to gently clean underneath it. This area can easily trap bacteria if left unchecked, leading to irritation or inflammation. And while we’re talking care tips, don’t underestimate the power of a little air time — letting the area breathe every now and then (instead of being constantly tucked into tight underwear) can make a real difference in comfort and health.
Regular Checkups & Self-Checks
Most people only see a healthcare professional about their sexual health when something feels off, yet having continual screenings on a routine could catch issues you might consider scheduling a check-up once a year if sexually active with different partners, or speak to a gynecological oncologist if you need any help.
Self-checks are equally important. Getting familiar with how your genitals normally look and feel helps you notice when something changes, and self-examination in the shower for both breasts and testicles can help you identify abnormalities. Breast cancer also applies to men, so be mindful of that.
Conduct & Boundaries In Sexual Experiences
Sexual health is more than just what our organs are doing of course, as it can include emotional wellbeing too. Being clear about your boundaries before intimate experiences protects both your physical and mental health. You might feel awkward discussing protection or boundaries, but these conversations are vital. That’s especially true in today’s environment where most people have been exposed to online material and may assume that’s how it’s supposed to go, Unfortunately, we see this with younger and inexperienced people more and more.
Remember that consent should always be enthusiastic and ongoing. People change their minds, which means that communication during sex creates better experiences for everyone involved and protects against conflict or disagreements that could lead to trauma. If we expect that from others, we need to give it.
With this advice, no matter what age you are, you can make it a priority to recommit to your sexual health and well-being.
