Writing by Abi Turner
Elena Alvarez was the first fictional character that I related to on almost every level. It was life-changing to have someone that I felt so connected to; I had never experienced this before. That’s why I’m especially heartbroken about ‘One Day at a Time’ being cancelled by Netflix but I’m ultimately glad that I got to experience this character.
Elena being a feminist is something that I immediately found that the two of us shared. Throughout the entire show, her feminist beliefs, rants and behaviours remind me of our likeness to one another. She constantly shared feminist knowledge to the other characters such as; “Men assert their power through microaggressions and mansplaining” and, when looking at a doll her father bought for her she pretended that the doll said, “My body proportions aren’t representative of a typical girl my age” and, a personal favorite as a theology student, “Can we agree that if there’s a God it’s gender neutral, not a he or a she?” She never backs down from sharing her thoughts and opinions and is always ready to stand up and fight for what she believes in.
Elena’s relationships with her family is something that also helped me see the parallel between us. Whether that be through her relationship with her brother, her feelings of being the odd one of the family or her Quinceanera. She and Alex are the only kids in the family, just like my brother and I. Even though my brother is older, the relationship is still similar. The sibling banter and fighting exist both in the Alvarez and the Turner home. In the third season, Elena says, “Sometimes I wanna kill you, but just like in the normal way.”, something that I can definitely relate to. They then go on to say that they need each other “to deal with Mom!” which is something that my brother and I often joke about. The sweet moment shared between Alex and Elena, on the boat, reminded me of my relationship with my own brother; when we’re not fighting.
In the first season, Elena also says a lot about feeling as if she’s the odd one out of the family, which is a feeling that I can again relate to. I joke about whether or not I was meant to be in this family as I’m not cut out for the amount of exercise all my family love to do. Another family moment that I related to was her Quinceanera. As I’m not Latinx I didn’t have a Quinceanera, but I had a First Nations version of that. The feelings about the event weren’t the same in the beginning as I was really looking forward to mine, unlike Elena as she said that it held too many patriarchal roots. However, once she came around to it, we both felt the same.
Ultimately, the moment I most connected to was Elena realising her white-passing identity. The conversation arises after Alex is harassed and told that he should “go back to where he came from”. Elena has a slight meltdown when her family inform her that Alex and she have a slightly different shade of skin and that’s why Elena hasn’t and probably won’t ever face discrimination. Elena says that “It’s amazing how lucky I’ve been. Even these days, in this openly racist world, I’ve managed to never have an incident.”. Her mother and Abuelita make uncomfortable faces and then Penelope says “… you and your brother are different shades.” This is when Elena becomes aware of her passing identity. As a Native Canadian and British teen, this was something that I can definitely relate to. I often feel like I have to explain my heritage as just by looking at me, people would assume that I’m just a tanned Caucasian.
Elena Alvarez is the only fictional character that I’ve been able to properly relate to. I pray that ‘One day at a Time’ is continued on another network and that Elena’s story is able to continue. In the future, I also hope that there are more characters like Elena to be on my TV screen; and the TV screens of other young girls who are figuring out their place in the world.[share]