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What To Say To Your Friend When They Are Struggling With Depression

Writing by Andie Reyes // illustration by Zhigang

I know you have been so sad lately. There are so many things running through your head that sometimes I don’t understand but I will do my best to.

You have come so far as to think that you are an “ugly” person, but when I talk to you, even just the sound of your voice seems to me the cutest thing in the world.

I will be here to just love you. I will be with you even when you don’t want to be with yourself. Sometimes you don’t know how you feel and you push me away because you feel like you don’t deserve love.

I know you’ve been through so much and  sometimes it seems that no one understands you but I want you to know that I will be there for you. If you want to cry, know that you can always cry on my shoulder.

I know you don’t always want company so I will understand that too and when your sadness and anger pass and you feel like a friend – call me – I will be there to answer the phone and listen to you. I will try to make you laugh, because the sadness you feel today will go away and you will smile again.

You asked me recently how you can keep your faith when you feel like this and I suppose faith is when you believe in something without proof.  I know at the moment that you have lost faith in yourself and the universe – but I also know it will return. For now, I will hold your faith for you.

Tadeo, my friend, you have bought so much joy into my life, I hope I can bring some joy into yours soon too. You are beautiful, smart and such a good soul. Your heart will heal soon and your happiness will return. I have faith.

Andy Reyes

Andy Reyes (she/her) is a Mexican writer, columnist, and poet. She is a feminist – the women she admires the most are her grandmother and mother. She is proudly Mexican and is interested in psychology and journalism – her favorite hobbies are knitting vests, reading, and making pancakes.

Andie started writing when she was seven years old, with the purpose to understand why she suffered from school bullying, she created a narrative about her experiences at school from the perspective of animals, that is where she fell in love with writing.

Andie likes sunsets, cuddling her cat Mushu and her little dog named Coco.


Zhigang is an artist and illustrator from China. He graduated from the Arts University Bournemouth from MA in illustration with distinction degree. He is currently working as a freelance illustrator and also working as an art teacher on his own studio in Shenzhen, China.
He likes to capture the moments and narratives occurring around him as he is most interested in real life. Hand-drawn observational images are combined with the digital in depicting landscapes, architecture, animals, food and humans, both individually and in crowds.

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